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Weddings one or two receptions?

Equally Wed - Friday, October 25, 2013

What if your family believes strongly in a marriage between a man and a woman? When it comes to big events where people are surrounded by ‘traditional’ families it can make times like Christmas, Easter, Birthdays and most importantly your wedding day an extremely stressful scenario.

I recently had a conversation with some friend’s about their future wedding plans. It firstly involved a wedding somewhere in a park and certainly not inside a church; with all the immediate family and close relatives. They would then proceed to have a few drinks with the relatives but not too many; before everyone departed the event for the day.

It is a celebration, an event of your lifetime which should be witnessed and encouraged by your family… right?

What If your family believes strongly in a marriage between a man and a woman? What if they believe what the bible preaches and not what their children believe. When it comes to the big events where people are surrounded by ‘traditional’ families it can make times like Christmas, Easter, Birthdays and most importantly your wedding day into a extremely stressful scenario.

Now back to the story.
 
The real reception however, was to be held with all their friends a short time later. It is a time to celebrate with a big party, have a few too many glasses of champagne and a rather glorious night that you will not forget.
 
It made me think about how l would conduct my wedding. Would l marry in a church? Or would l chose a park or just elope to an island where the vows would be exchanged just between the couple, some friends and a celebrant.

Would l have a reception with the family or have a party in a big open hall with a drag queen belting out tunes on the decks, a slushy machine to provide a respite from the hot summer’s day and some fancy night club lighting for late night dancing.
Well l know what l would pick!
 
It is a decision that many LGBTQI couples face well before they plan to marry. Even if one of the couples parents accepts equality, it is quite often the opposite with the other person’s parent’s.
How do you juggle that?

Imagine you are in a loving relationship of 10 years with your soul mate, then you stand there at your own wedding knowing that your parent’s or your brother/sister  do not accept your relationship.. cough cough Tony Abbott.
 
I ask you… would you invite them? I mean really….. do you want to be surrounded by friends who see you as an equal couple, who have known you for years; but yet swirling around the reception dance floor your eyes meet that person who disapproves.

I think this is probably one of the most hotly debated topics pre-wedding on any same-sex couple.

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